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"Things you wouldn't have
even known to say
when you were twelve."

Bullying occurs on many levels. Generalizing about school terror has limited value. Be specific. You can learn what to do. Understanding what's really going on inside yourself and inside other people is what helps. The toughest ages a person goes through are fifteen to thirty, because you don't know what's going to happen and there are things you have to learn. Be simple. Trust yourself. The best answer to a fool is silence "&" YOU CAN USE WORDS TO LET OFF STEAM! "&" You can replace (1.) raw fear, (2.) shame, (3.) mortification, (4.) guilt, (5.) self-recrimination, (6.) simmering hostility or (7.) vague unspoken feelings with words "&" Don't worry until something happens, right? When you are around truly dangerous people, policemen or at work, lay low! Learn how to psychologically leave home. When you can talk back to your parents, you're cured! Preparation is everything. If you "don't get it!" it's just patience, you know? These "wolf trap release mechanisms" are reaching the deepest parts of you. The idea is to free yourself from bullying altogether, not to engage with it head-on. There is subtle and real knowledge here for doing this.

Magic is already inside everyone, trapped at a preverbal level, and the sorcery at taxi1010.com has to do with releasing those traps. When energy is released from buried memories, it comes up as "kief" (as the Arabs used to call it), or inner light.

SAMPLE -- do

They say: "Why do you let people do this to you?" [Bully you]

Key word: do

Category: 32 (out of eighty-eight categories)

You say: —NO TROUBLE!

You hold back: "WHAT'S WRONG WITH GETTING ANGRY? ... (1.) You could hurt someone's feelings; (2.) You could go too far; (3.)  You could say too much; (4.) They could retaliate, threaten, and punish; (5.) It's uncivilized or barbaric ... WHAT'S MY FAULT TODAY?"

SAMPLE -- do

They say: "What do you mean by that?"

Key word: do

Category: 32 (out of eighty-eight categories)

You say: —Behind everything.

You hold back: "To annoy my neighbors ... TO MAKE THEM PAY FOR THIS! ... It's not going to do you any good to be too civilized ... You have to pay a lot for dwarfs to take small steps – in Berkeley ... Frightened is a tool you have – It's like a thermometer of intelligence ... 'What good is learning about a problem if you can't learn about solving the damn thing, am I right?' (–Andres Vachss, Heart Transplant, Dark Horse Books, Milwaukie, Oregon, 2010)"

SAMPLE -- gang

They say: "You're not in our gang – This is a private club – You can't be a member." [To a four-year-old girl]

Key word: gang

Category: 64 (out of eighty-eight categories)

You say: —Probably.

You hold back: "One person could have changed your entire life."

SAMPLE -- member

They say: "You're not a member."

Key word: member

Category: 64 (out of eighty-eight categories)

You say: —Probably.

You hold back: "Stuck in my heart! ... N.I.N.J.A. – No Income, No Job or Assets."

SAMPLE -- witnesses

They say: "Passive witnesses to such behavior – other students, teachers or parents – who do nothing are coconspirators in the bullying behavior." (–Mark D. Smaller, Director, Analytic Service to Adolescents Program, Morton Alternative School, Chicago)

Key word: witnesses

Category: 04 (out of eighty-eight categories)

You say: —Totally destroyed.

You hold back: "What did the Chinese say? One order leads to ten thousand ... It's like making holes in the ocean ... You can just make gestures."

SAMPLE -- comeback

They text: «Defend friend bully rude comeback school»

Key word: comeback

Category: 04 (out of eighty-eight categories)

You say: —Totally destroyed.

You hold back: "Oh, don't let the pastor hear that!"

SAMPLE -- tips

They say: "He could pick up some tips from you then."

Key word: tips

Category: 04 (out of eighty-eight categories)

You say: —Sure, boss!

You hold back: "What I don't understand is, why aren't they all multimillionaires?"

SAMPLE -- Coca-Cola

They say: "GIVE ME THAT COCA-COLA CAN! – ONE, TWO, THREE ..." [Overhearing an eleven-year-old boy threatening his eight-year-old sister]

Key word: Coca-Cola

Category: 04 (out of eighty-eight categories)

You say: —Totally destroyed.

You hold back: "What a slurp! What a cherry lifesaver she is! I haven't seen anything that nice in a long time ... WHY ARE YOU ASKING ME THAT, NEIGHBOR HANS? HAST THE DEVIL GOT THY TOE? ... That's pretty heavy, isn't it? Pretty heavy duty ... Nobody smart does anything like that ... THAT'S NOT CRICKET ... It's different ... YOU HAVE TO CHANGE YOUR WAYS ... You have to pay someone ... The Maharishi, 'The Little Man Who Lived With the Monkeys' ... In northern India ... Read The Wolf Man."

SAMPLE -- didn't

They say: "I didn't hurt you." [Telling his little sister to stop crying after throwing a rock at her]

Key word: didn't

Category: 75 (out of eighty-eight categories)

You say: —Many things!

You hold back: "Not entirely! ... Not endlessly!"

SAMPLE -- why

They say: "Why did you order that pie in the first place?"

Key word: why

Category: 78 (out of eighty-eight categories)

You say: —Big time!

You hold back: "I was walking on the ceiling and put my head in the refrigerator ... Proof of liking ... In the flesh ... It's hard to criticize a spark of light ... Small proofs of liking ... Poked me in the eye ... Provisions ... What good is a love affair if we can't see eye-to-eye?"

SAMPLE -- worked

They say: "I know a professor who worked there [your Alma Mater] – He said all the students were lazy and stupid."

Key word: worked

Category: 18 (out of eighty-eight categories)

You say: —Apparently not.

You hold back: "You want someone who's nice to the kids ... (If nothing else, it'll keep 'em off the street!)"

SAMPLE -- shovel

They say: "Why did you get a shovel?"

Key word: shovel

Category: 45 (out of eighty-eight categories)

You say: —It's shocking.

You hold back: "Hold the questions lightly – Another aimless day."

SAMPLE -- moron

They say: "What are you, a moron?"

Key word: moron

Category: 77 (out of eighty-eight categories)

You say: —Next time!

You hold back: "Protect yourself."

SAMPLE -- you

They say: "You didn't see or hear anything, did you?" [To an enlisted sailor having just witnessed a physical brawl between two officers on an aircraft carrier]

Key word: you

Category: 41 (out of eighty-eight categories)

You say: —Not yet.

You hold back: "It's hard for me to talk, too."

SAMPLE -- agenda

They say: "What's your agenda for this trip?"

Key word: agenda

Category: 83 (out of eighty-eight categories)

You say: —Can't wait.

You hold back: "You're not supposed to do something ... You're supposed to occupy a space .. If someone needs you, they'll find you, and if they don't, you're lucky!"

SAMPLE -- stab

They say: "I'M GOING TO FUCKING STAB YOU!" [From out of the blue, on a city street in Chicago]

Key word: stab

Category: 83 (out of eighty-eight categories)

You say: —Heavy duty.

You hold back: "Scheisse! ... Icy Fire! ... Icy Fire! ... Scheiße! ... Real Axe! ... Real Axe! ... REAL AXE! ... (What you've just done is say "Shit!" in German, "I see fire!" twice, in plain English, "Shit!" again, in proper German, followed by "Relax!" three times in English. Circle some random parked park until a taxi comes along, then calmly raise your left arm and flag the cab. Taxicabs won't stop if you're being emotional or acting crazy. Don't go back. They've probably vandalized the parked car, thinking it was yours. Stay away from there.)

SAMPLE -- agenda

They say: "If you touch that agenda, I'll cut your hands off."

Key word: agenda

Category: 83 (out of eighty-eight categories)

You say: —Heavy duty.

You hold back: "And you know it."

SAMPLE -- he'd

They say: "I'd tell you, but then he'd have to kill you."

Key word: he'd

Category: 77 (out of eighty-eight categories)

You say: —Carry on!

You hold back: "Life is like money – You can't hold on too tight."

SAMPLE -- friends

They say: "Do you have any friends?"

Key word: friends

Category: 85 (out of eighty-eight categories)

You say: —All over.

You hold back: "They wear you out, don't they?"

SAMPLE -- scenic

They say: "Is this the scenic route?"

Key word: scenic

Category: 77 (out of eighty-eight categories)

You say: —Next time!

You hold back: "Unless you're unlucky."

SAMPLE -- jerk

They say: "You're a jerk!"

Key word: jerk

Category: 01 (out of eighty-eight categories)

You say: —Like crazy!

You hold back: "Don't include me!"

SAMPLE -- liar

They say: "You're also a liar!"

Key word: liar

Category: 01 (out of eighty-eight categories)

You say: —Totally different.

You hold back: "Maybe it's you."

SAMPLE -- replaced

They say: "You can be replaced."

Key word: replaced

Category: 64 (out of eighty-eight categories)

You say: —Go on!

You hold back: "They train you to work, shut up, and do what you're supposed to do."

SAMPLE -- loser

They say: "You're a loser."

Key word: loser

Category: 01 (out of eighty-eight categories)

You say: —MANY TIMES!

You hold back: "Part of one big machine."

SAMPLE -- stuck

They say: "You're stuck."

Key word: stuck

Category: 01 (out of eighty-eight categories)

You say: —Like crazy!

You hold back: "You don't have to be."

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They say: "Stupid people like to make comebacks because they aren't smart enough to make them up on the spot!"

Key word: because

Category: 78 (out of eighty-eight categories)

You say: —Big time!

You hold back: "If you're a secretary when you're three, you're a boss when you're thirty-three."

SAMPLE -- name

They say: "But you can't name the third one?" [Moderator (and unseen TV Producer) following up Governor Rick Perry's unscripted "Commerce, Education and the, uh, what's the third one there, let's see ..." in a CNBC presidential debate] (–John Harwood, "'Oops' Moment Takes On a Life of Its Own," The Caucus – The Politics and Government Blog of The Times, The New York Times, November 13, 2011)

Key word: name

Category: 11 (out of eighty-eight categories)

You say: —Totally unhelpful.

You hold back: "It's like the most decrepit National Park on the earth."

SAMPLE -- does

They say: "What does that mean?"

Key word: does

Category: 74 (out of eighty-eight categories)

You say: —That's cozy.

You hold back: "Stop worrying – Life is not a test."

SAMPLE -- problem

They say: "I don't know what your problem is."

Key word: problem

Category: 18 (out of eighty-eight categories)

You say: —It's chilling.

You hold back: "Alone & as is ... The Eskimo Rules."

SAMPLE -- lies

They say: "Everybody lies."

Key word: lies

Category: 77 (out of eighty-eight categories)

You say: —Carry on!

You hold back: "Choose your friends wisely! ... A small circle of friends ... The glass key of friendship."

SAMPLE -- paranoid

They say: "Mathias said... This is nuts. Like the wit of the staircase filtered through paranoid schizophrenia. Almost better than Timecube."

Key word: paranoid

Category: 66 (out of eighty-eight categories)

You say: —Holy Cow!

You hold back: "Each way."

SAMPLE -- to

They say: "So you don't want to sit with me?"

Key word: to

Category: 51 (out of eighty-eight categories)

You say: —Someone must.

You hold back: "We're all animals ... Monogamy is not natural ... Maybe because your mother didn't die ... I wouldn't be surprised."

SAMPLE -- nice

They say: "You're too nice." [Teenage girl to teenage boy]

Key word: nice

Category: 45 (out of eighty-eight categories)

You say: —It's shocking.

You hold back: "So what are you going to do about it? ... Suffer! ... You're supposed to suffer for three days."

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